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Moving Away from Home for the First Time | Parent Centre

By Laura Daly - 8 minute read

The transition from secondary school to university or college is a significant milestone in your Leaving Cert student’s life. It marks their first real step into independence. For parents and guardians, this can be both a proud and challenging moment, filled with mixed emotions and a sense of uncertainty about how to best support them during this period.

It can be helpful to think of the move in terms of two elements: the practical things to get them on their feet and the emotional support they will need as they leave their childhood home. There are also slightly more complex considerations if the student is moving abroad, as opposed to within Ireland.

Preparing for the move: practical tips

  • Accommodation

    The current shortage of housing supply can be one of the main causes of stress when it comes to a student moving away from college so early planning can help mitigate this. As soon as it becomes clear that the student will be attending a college or university away from home, start discussing the logistics of the move with them. Investigate all the options on offer: on-campus accommodation, renting a room from a host family, or a shared private rental with other students. Familiarise yourself with your rights as a tenant before signing a lease or paying a deposit.

  • Visit the campus

    If possible, visit the university or college campus together. This helps the student become familiar with their new environment and eases the transition. It also provides you with peace of mind seeing where they will be living and studying.

  • Budgeting

    Unsurprisingly, one of the greatest challenges when a student first moves out of home is money management skills. It’s essential they learn the basics of budgeting and managing their finances. Discuss how to handle rent, food, transportation, and entertainment expenses. It is worthwhile considering setting up a joint bank account to help manage money and provide support when needed or in case of emergencies.

  • Part-time work

    To foster independence as well as help acquire those essential money management skills, part-time work can build these life skills while studying in college or university. If you feel your student will work part-time while living away, help them compose their CV and a general cover letter. You could also compile a list of local businesses to which they could apply once they are settled in.

  • Weekend visits

    Plan for occasional weekend visits. Knowing they can come home periodically can be comforting for both of you. However, at the beginning of term especially, encourage them to spend most weekends in their new environment to fully immerse themselves in their new community.

  • Healthcare

    Help your student register with a local GP and understand how to access medical services. Lots of the larger universities have student health services on campus. Make sure they have a supply of any necessary medications and know how to refill prescriptions.

Supporting your student emotionally

  • Open communication

    Maintain open lines of communication by encouraging your student to share their feelings about moving away and listen without judgment. Listening can be more constructive than offering unsolicited advice. Once they have moved, regular check-ins through calls or video chats can help both of you stay connected but don’t be surprised if some of your calls go unreturned as they settle into their newfound freedom.

  • Encourage independence

    While it’s natural to want to help, encourage your child to solve problems on their own by reaching out to those who can help in the college or university. This fosters that all-important independence and confidence in their ability to manage their new life.

  • Respect their space

    Our anxieties as parents and guardians can have an overpowering effect so ensure you give your student the space to adapt to their new environment. Trust in their ability to handle their responsibilities and be there as a support system rather than a helicopter parent.

  • Support networks

    Encourage your child to build a support network in their new location. This can include making friends, joining clubs or societies, and getting to know their roommates.

Tips for students moving abroad

  • Visa and legal requirements

    Ensure your student understands the visa process and any legal requirements for living and studying abroad. This may include health insurance, work permits, and residency regulations.

  • Organise important documents

    Having copies of all essential documents such as passport, identification, health records, and academic transcripts is important. Create a checklist to avoid last-minute scrambling.

  • International banking

    Set up an international banking account if necessary. Discuss the best methods for transferring money and managing finances while abroad. If there’s a different currency used make sure the student understands the exchange rate.

  • Cultural adaptation

    Preparing for cultural differences is vital as some students can often experience a 'culture shock' when they first move abroad which can increase feelings of homesickness. Take some time to establish an understanding of local customs and etiquette, and possibly learn some basic phrases in the local language. Encourage them to be open-minded and respectful of their new surroundings.

  • Local culture and activities

    Encourage your student to explore and embrace the local culture. This can include attending local events, exploring nearby attractions, or participating in community activities.

  • Transportation

    When moving outside Ireland, understanding the best local transportation options to and from the college or university is important as this might include buses, trains, or even bike routes. Familiarise them with schedules and costs.

  • Safety precautions

    Although not an exciting aspect of the pre-move, it is crucial to discuss safety precautions specific to the country they will be living in. This might include understanding local laws, for example, there may be different legal age requirements for driving or buying alcohol. It is also important that they are aware of any areas to avoid where their safety may be compromised.

Watching your student move away from home for the first time can be challenging but it's also an opportunity for them to grow and develop independence. By preparing them practically and emotionally, you can help ensure they are ready for this new chapter in their lives. Remember, this transition is a significant step for both of you and maintaining a balance between support and independence will make the experience rewarding.

The adventure is just beginning and with your guidance and encouragement, they will be well-equipped to navigate their new world. Celebrate their successes, be there for their challenges, and enjoy watching them thrive in their new environment.

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